I am greatly influenced by models of therapy informed by attachment theory and theories of trauma. I believe as individuals and groups we construct social reality, including versions of ourselves. This social construction is an ongoing, dynamic process that is reproduced by people acting on their interpretations of the world and their beliefs about themselves. These constructions of ourselves are not given by nature, but are maintained by beliefs and ideas about ourselves.
Attachment and trauma theory suggest these constructions and stories about ourselves are generated in our early lives as we adapt to the world around us. These ideas also lead to the possibility to think about change, our lives are not pre-determined. Our stories and the meaning of these can be developed, modified and take on new meanings.
Within this framework I will draw on ideas from a number of different theoretical approaches which can help people to understand what makes them tick and what may be possible for them.
Entering a therapeutic relationship can be challenging and rewarding whatever form of therapy you choose. I aim to make the therapeutic space a safe place which can act as a secure base. Within the confidentiality and safety of a therapeutic relationship we can explore the thoughts and feeling closest to our hearts and how these influence the way we live our lives now. At the outset of therapy this contact can bring strong feelings of relief and so encourage us to delve deeper. I aim to support you and help you feel safe enough to explore areas of your life that may be painful or previously held unconsciously.
Sometimes having this space to talk can allow us to makes sense of troubling thoughts and feelings can help put them in perspective, and to find new ways forward and develop new opportunities. For others therapy can be a space where painful experiences and strong emotions can be heard and accepted and healing can take place.
Therapy can provide a place where you can investigate your’ internal working model’. As the therapeutic relationship deepens key experiences of our lives, past and present, are explored, with particular regard to how they affect our feelings, thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. In a safe space you can look at such things as, who you are? How did you come to be that way? And how you would like to be? With continued support this can allow you to experiment with new ways of being and to integrate these changes into your life. I hope that people finishing therapy will feel they understand themselves better and feel freer and able to live in ways which are fulfilling and conducive to contentment and happiness.